Be Happy Where You Are + Free Printable

We're a couple of weeks into the new year and thankfully I'm still excited and working on my goals for the year. While it's good to have an eye towards the future, it's also equally important to be happy and fulfilled now.

Goals should be a way to encourage self improvement, but can sometimes be used as a way to avoid fully being in the here and now.

I'm guilty of using goals as a means to escape reality.

Let's use my blog for example. I want to grow my blog to reach thousands of people.

So naturally, I spend all day on Pinterest pinning away all the things I need to do to make that happen.

Instead of making a plan of action-able steps, I spend all day in lala land. Now it's 7 o'clock and my family is starving and all I've done all day is pretend I have a million blog followers that are waiting for my pearls of wisdom. (My ego can sometimes get the best of me).

So I must stop and think- Am I really ready for a million readers?

Maybe not.

At least not until I can remember to feed my family at a decent time.

Are you really ready for those big dreams and goals? Check out my article on Over the Moon Magazine to see if you're really ready!

Blessings-
Felicia

Happy Mother's Day

I don't think anyone is ever really ready when a pregnancy test smiles at you. I hadn't planned on getting pregnant, but the universe had other plans. I wasn't the first person in line to hold the new baby, or had any desire to play with dolls as a child.I didn't have one ounce of motherly anything.

It wasn't that I didn't want kids, I just felt like I'd be okay if it never happened. Thankfully, God had other plans. Like wayyyyy different plans.

Once I got all settled in with the my new pregnant self, I decided that I would have a beautiful, calm, water birth at home surrounded by candles and heavenly music.

I know...first time mom = clueless.

Once again, my plans didn't pan out that way. I developed a severe case of preeclampsia and had to be transported to a bigger hospital to deliver my son via emergency c-section.

Now that he's is a year and a half, the way he made his entrance to this world fits him perfectly. He's very independent and strong willed. He's a little rebel like me (;.

Thank God for his demeanor, 'cause when you're born almost 4 months early, you've got to be pretty determined.

Becoming a mom three and a half months early made me feel like I was so behind. I felt like I was always trying to play catch up. I had a pile of prenatal books I didn't get to read, maternity clothes with the tags still on and a prenatal yoga DVD that came the week I delivered my son.

I was already feeling unprepared and clueless. Having a baby at 26 weeks sure didn't help. I didn't have a parenting style picked out or even had time to do my research on vaccinating.

It's like I got pushed into the middle of a marathon with no training.

I'm finally beginning to realise that what I'm experiencing is called motherhood. We all have these ideas of how we want things to go and the things we'd like to be better prepared for before baby comes or even the things we'd like to accomplish with our children.

Life goes by whether or not you're prepared. Half the time it doesn't go as planned, and that's okay.

I'm finally okay that I wasn't able to use my hypno-birthing cd, or use the birthing tub we reserved. I'm okay knowing that while I have no clue what I'm doing, that I have a force greater than me that I seek guidance and direction from.

We all have access to that guidance.

Search for it and you will find it.

I'm still pretty new to the parenting scene but check out Sitting on the baby. Amy is a mom and a childhood expert who's not afraid to talk about the tuff stuff like how to handle your screaming baby and other stuff we get scared to talk about as parents. There's lots of help there.

The best advice I could give to new parents, or to any new mother who's life isn't going the way you thought is- as long as you're always doing the best you can, everything will be okay. Be present. Enjoy every minute you can with your babies.

Know that the long nights of no sleep and baby screaming will soon be long gone.

You can do this. You were chosen for this. You're and your kids will be just fine.

Lots of love and blessings,
- Felicia G

What To Do When You Lack Motivation

I get so overwhelmed with all my ideas & ambitions that it seems easier to just lay in bed and take a nap. Then there are days when I'm so focused and fired up and ready to tackle anything, nothing can stop me. Today is not one of those days. Today is one of those lay in bed all day kinda days. This issue of trying to make something out of my life, fulfilling my purpose...it feels like a battle sometimes. There are times when I feel like none of it matters, that nothing we do matters. I get frustrated because I don't get why we have to work just to make pieces of paper. It seems so dumb sometimes. Like why can't we all just do what we love and barter and not have to spend so much time "making money". What's the point of all of this is?


Yesterday was a Debbie Downer kinda day.

I was feeling defeated. We all feel it at one point or another.

I tend to be overly ambitious. I want to do everything at the same time, and I want it done like yesterday. Since I had so many things I wanted to do, I probably got overwhelmed and decided not to do anything.
Maybe it was all the wind. Whatever it was, I was feeling defeated.

I was just being dramatic. I was lacking motivation and it spiraled into "maybe I'm doing the wrong thing, maybe I should be doing something else, if this was my real passion, then why aren't I motivated to do any work?" I was ready to throw in the towel, to call it a day and just lay in bed.

There are lots of times when we feel like what's the point? You're not defeated. You're just having a bad day. And it's not really even a bad day. It just might not be a productive of a day as you would like.

I'm pretty sure Michael Phelps had those days when he'd rather stay inside and watch movies all day. And I bet Giselle Bunchend has lots of days when she'd rather sit on the couch and eat a whole cake. (Probably not, but it makes me feel better thinking she does). Do a job you love and you'll never work a day in your life...blah, blah, blah. Just because you're doing a job you love, doesn't mean every day is going to be all butterflies and rainbows. And just because there are days you don't want to do you job, doesn't mean it isn't your passion, or purpose.

I know I am living my purpose. But I was totally second guessing myself. I felt like I was swimming upstream. So I decided to stop. I called it a day because I knew I wasn't getting anywhere.

Whenever you aren't in the flow, when you aren't feeling connected to the Divine, God, whatever you call your source of inspiration- it's best to not do anything. 

Don't dig yourself deeper and deeper. Once you realize that you are swimming upstream, stop. Go with the flow. Maybe the best thing for you to do is nothing. Maybe you're being guided to slow down to get a different perspective, or a better insight to a problem you've been working on.

 You have the power to change your thoughts, which will change the direction of your life. Once you notice you aren't feeling good, stop and do something that does feel good.

Don't ever forget that there is a force so much bigger than you that can see the whole picture.

When it comes to running a business or when you're working towards a goal or project, there seems like there's so much that needs to be done, and if you aren't doing it, someone else is.

You have a gift that no one else has, and you have ways in sharing those gifts that no one else can. So don't worry that someone else is going to work harder than you or steal your chance. Take it easy, breathe, relax. We all have those days. Don't worry, they'll pass.

Rome wasn't built in a day, and they had a whole crew.

Love, light and rainbow kisses,

-Felicia

It's Okay to not know Your Life's Purpose

When it comes to getting things done, there are two kinds of people.

Doers and thinkers.

 For example: say there's people playing double dutch. The doers would just jump right in, not caring that they have no clue what they're doing or not caring if they're even doing it right.

The thinkers would first google things like, what is double dutch, when was it created, who created it, why did they create it, should I play double dutch, what are the percentage of people who are happier after double dutch, etc. Then once they think they've got it all figured out, they might Youtube a few videos of real people double dutching.

I am a thinker.

Not like a logical thinker, more like philosopher thinker. It's been an issue my whole life. I would spend so much time thinking and over thinking.

And guess what...I would never get anywhere!

I would beat myself up about all the time, feeling I was wasting time by not taking action.

Not taking action is actually just another way of taking action.

Maybe if I had kept up with my blog 3 years ago, I would already have written my first book. But then I think about all the stuff I've learned in between.

 I'm not the same person I was 3 years ago.

There's a lot of pressure to start your life young and to accomplish and succeed and to have it all figured out.

I vividly remember  in my senior year in high school- my guidance counselor was helping me sign up for college (which I hadn't even planned on going) and she asked me what do you want to major in?

What? I don't know what you're saying.

What do you want to do for the rest of your life?

OMG my anxiety was through the roof.

I'm pretty sure I had a  massive panic attack.

How the heck was I supposed to know what I wanted to do with the rest of my life, I had just gotten my drivers license!?

That question plagued me for the next 10 years. I was so overwhelmed by the idea that I never gave it any more thought.

During my career as a massage therapist, I went through a lot of phases.

I kept looking for the elusive life purpose.

I thought it would be cool to work in a laid back environment where I could walk around barefoot and  be my own boss, so I became a massage therapist.

Then I had this idea that massage wasn't enough so I wanted to become an acupuncturist. So I got a job working for my acupuncturist.

I loved video games so I got a job at Gamestop.

I always wanted to be a comedian so I joined a burlesque troop and did comedy. (My sister called me stripper clown).

Then I thought I wanted to be a cosmetologist, so I went to beauty school. Then I became a beauty school drop out cuz it turned out I really didn't like it that much.

A few years later, I remembered how much I enjoyed making and creating jewelry so I started a jewelry business.

You should see my resume! 

Those were all my hobbies and interests. But they weren't really my passion. I kinda had an idea what my real passion was but I wasn't totally sure.

But I had some incredible experiences during those 10 years of not knowing my life purpose.

What I was really looking for was an outlet to be me.

I was looking for myself. Those things were just one aspect of me. I used to feel like such a failure that I didn't have it all figured out. I would literally lay awake in bed all night trying so hard to figure out what i was supposed to be doing.

What does anyone really know about themselves in their 20's?

Not much. Not even in your 30's. Maybe a little more in your 40's? But then 50 comes along and you're like wtf. I still don't have a clue.

First, let's let go of the pressure of  finding your life purpose.

One of my most influential teachers, Christie Marie Sheldon describes you life purpose as that which makes you happy.

Our real purpose is for us to be so full of life and expressing joy and love everyday. I'll explain why she was so influential in another post. Ok so instead of asking yourself whats my life purpose, ask what makes me happy.

And what can I do everyday to make myself happy. When you're happy, your happiness is contagious.

As light workers (people who's purpose is to help spread the truth of love) we can sometimes get so confused as to how were supposed to help people and how to live that purpose.

You don't have to have a special job description to help people.

A few weekends ago at the I Can Do It Denver conference, Sonia Choquette demonstrated this beautifully. She pulled this girl on stage and asked her what she wanted to do with her life. The girl replied "I want to help people". Sonia asked her how. "I want to be a physical therapist". Basically Sonia was telling the girl that she didn't have to be anything other than herself to help people. So she had the girl sing a song and made us all laugh and she asked if the girl helped us and everyone agreed that she had.

The moral of the story is that we should help people every day. To be the best person we can be everyday. And be patient knowing that in time, you'll figure it out.

Don't be an a** hole in the meantime while trying to "find your purpose".

Smile at strangers, bless people instead of judging them. Be kind.

Trust me, you'll figure out what you're supposed to be doing when you're ready to do it.

You can also head over to The Passion Test. They have a quick test that gives you some guidance.

Love, light and fairy wings.

-Felicia G